Oh boy! I have wanted to write about this since ages. All those who have used the services of a matrimonial sites, must know how difficult it is to actually find a good match, or even a good profile on such sites. For those who haven't yet visited one, here's some information for you.
- Maximum no of profiles you find on these sites are incomplete - Unfortunately its true. Both the text and the photo. Sometimes it is because the person entering the profile is either a parent / sibling or a relative. So 90% of the preferences are - 'Any'. Like they are ok with any religion, caste, colour, race, height, weight - something which is usually untrue. And there are not even a few lines of introduction or anything written in about the expectations.
- Inactive Members - You also have to contend with a whole bunch of profiles which have not been live since a month or more. I don't know why the sites continue with such profiles - if someone is not active for more than a month - they have either found their perfect match, or are not genuinely interested - email them and kill the profiles.
- People who are just out for fun - Female members do really have a tougher time at these sites. If you find a 21 or 63 year old, putting on an interest for a 35 year old lady, most probably, they are just fooling around or are really desperate. And there are plenty of desperate cases, and if they are paid members, they will also send you messages - sometimes nearly lewd.
- People who put in an interest for everybody - Maybe they think, that you should not feel left out. So there are people who put in an interest to every profile that the matrimonial site suggests. Their own preferences might be for a Hindu Marathi girl of about 25 years, but they will blindly send in an interest to a Christian girl of about 30 - or anyone else that they would reject when they actually read the profile information.
- Irritating phone calls - And this you can blame directly on the site. After you have been online for a month or so, they will start calling you up for you to buy paid subscription - and they call you at afternoon. So if its a parent's number that you have put up - they will most definitely wake them up from their afternoon nap. And the sales representatives are pretty bold - they will make statements like if you pay for the subscription, you will see better and more profiles. I don't believe it - for the websites only say that they will highlight your profile or send you better matches.
So, what should you do? Not sign up? No, not yet. You may just find your match if you are at it patiently. Remember, the website widens our horizons. Its just that you should take things with a pinch of salt. And keep your humour handy. For, most of the profiles will make you laugh, if you are in a cheerful mood.
The photos itself - the trend is to put up selfies these days - taken from weird angles, no smiles - just a stolen moment from a busy day at work. Thankfully, matrimonial sites don't accept group photos these days, otherwise there were people who would try to post that too - for you to guess who the groom/bride is. If someone has been abroad, they will most definitely put up a photo from that location - even if the fellow looks like a tiny speck standing in front of the Eiffel Tower. Just so you know that they are phoren-return.
The language, if they have written something about themselves, is another thing altogether. Some will advertise themselves, and some will write - 'Me, 30 year old, want girl'. Wow! Such low expectations! All around, no spellcheck, no grammar, people writing about themselves in a way that will make you feel they are describing a plaque on the wall. Part of that is because they have to write in English, well most sites don't give you a chance to write in Hindi or your native tongue. Honestly, there is a lot that can be improved when it comes to matrimonial sites.
The photos itself - the trend is to put up selfies these days - taken from weird angles, no smiles - just a stolen moment from a busy day at work. Thankfully, matrimonial sites don't accept group photos these days, otherwise there were people who would try to post that too - for you to guess who the groom/bride is. If someone has been abroad, they will most definitely put up a photo from that location - even if the fellow looks like a tiny speck standing in front of the Eiffel Tower. Just so you know that they are phoren-return.
The language, if they have written something about themselves, is another thing altogether. Some will advertise themselves, and some will write - 'Me, 30 year old, want girl'. Wow! Such low expectations! All around, no spellcheck, no grammar, people writing about themselves in a way that will make you feel they are describing a plaque on the wall. Part of that is because they have to write in English, well most sites don't give you a chance to write in Hindi or your native tongue. Honestly, there is a lot that can be improved when it comes to matrimonial sites.
And that's it. Your key to matrimonial sites. If you come across something funny - laugh out loud, don't take things too personally. There all sorts of people in the world and you have just presented yourself to them. Please do put up a complete profile of yourself with some introduction, something about your expectations - and do run it through a spellchecker before you publish it. If you really want to find your life partner, do put your best foot forward.
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